It's been close to 4 years that I've been on my own now. Well, from 2020 up until 2022, I had the comfort of living with my parents, I decided to go after my dream life in late 2022, and haven't looked back ever since.
It's a strange and wonderful feeling to live alone. You get to be by yourself, do whatever under the shade of this planet that you've wanted to do, and feel like you're living the life of your dreams.
The good, and not-so-good part of this is that sometimes the life of our dreams comes with a cost - we all, no matter what stage of life we're in, go through phases of losing ourselves completely, only to be found again.
I've spoken a lot about my journey, my experiences, and my highs and lows while being in Canada. But, I realized today that I never spoke about the things I learned the hard way all this while that I've been here.
Here it goes:
You're going to be left, and that's ok: You will absolutely NOT have people by your side all the time, and I learnt this the hard way. You need to learn to be your own best friend.
You could have everything and nothing at the same time: The thing with us humans is that we seek validation to feel loved, powerful, and worthy. However, what I found out was when you get none, you feel like you're worthless all of a sudden. The best way out is to understand that all the validation we're looking for is already within us.
Discomfort and growth will co-exist: I always dreamt of a life where I wanted growth and success without any misfortunes, failures, heartbreaks or pain. The news broke out, and it turns out that to really grow, we need to experience a little bit of everything.
When all falls apart, something somewhere is falling in place: I've witnessed moments when my life didn't go as per my plans. And, as much as I was frightened and worried, I couldn't change it a bit. I've been through and come out of storms only to realise that there was something better out there waiting for me.
All I'm saying is - when you go in the direction of untravelled roads, and the path less taken, you'd witness events no one has. But then, there are also people worth taking inspiration from. You're never alone, and you'll never be.
In my experience, keep going until you find a place where your decision makes sense. And till the time it doesn't, experience all the in-betweens. They make you strong, and life a little more worth living.
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